Why Am I So Anxious?

Why am I so anxious all the time? I asked myself that over and over, but never got any good answers. I worried about my future, things I did in the past, and never was in the present moment, where I needed to be.

So, I worried about everything I could think of health wise. Pain in the chest-am I having a heart attack? Headache-am I having a stroke? All the possibilities. I was worrying about things I could somewhat control, like with diet and exercise.

What really got me was why am I so anxious for no reason? The anxiety decided to take it to the next level. Why not be anxious for nothing! I felt like I was going out of my mind (literally, I was). It got to the point that I couldn’t stand it anymore, so I decided to try a different avenue to help. I went to holistic medicines. That was my salvation.

Symptoms of Anxiety

Anxiety can manifest in various ways, and symptoms can differ from person to person. Here are some common symptoms of anxiety:

Physical Symptoms:
- Increased heart rate
- Rapid breathing or hyperventilation
- Sweating
- Trembling or shaking
- Fatigue or weakness
- Headaches
- Stomach issues, like nausea or diarrhea
Emotional Symptoms:
- Feelings of nervousness or restlessness
- A sense of impending danger or panic
- Irritability
- Difficulty concentrating or thinking about anything other than the present worry
Behavioral Symptoms:
- Avoidance of certain situations or places
- Compulsive behaviors
- Difficulty sleeping or insomnia
Cognitive Symptoms:
- Overthinking or racing thoughts
- Difficulty controlling worry
- Fear of losing control

Why Am I So Anxious in the Morning?

Why am I so anxious in the morning? The minute I woke up, I was in anxiety mode. I hurried to eat my breakfast to take my meds. In the beginning, the meds my doctor had me on really didn’t help. But every morning, it was like clockwork, the anxiety would start. I couldn’t escape it. Even when I was asleep, I had panic attacks that would wake me up abruptly.

That’s when my insomnia started. I was afraid to go to sleep. Sometimes, mid morning, I would pass out, because I was so exhausted from not sleeping. That was not a fun time in my life.

It changed when I found Valerian Root, an herb. It has drastically changed my life. There are little to no side effects, other than making you sleepy. I sleep peacefully through the night now. Also, I am much more productive during the day. If you decide to try it, make sure it doesn’t react with any other meds you might be on.

Why Am I So Anxious About My Health?

Like I mentioned earlier, I was afraid of heart attacks and strokes. Each time I had a pain anywhere, I thought I was dying. No, I wasn’t a hypochondriac. It was the fear that I couldn’t control whatever might make me ill. It’s always that control issue with anxiety. If you can’t control it, you fear it.

With anxiety, you feel the impressing urge to control everything, even your health. On top of that, I have Facticious Disorder. I would do or say things that would put me in the hospital. Not proud of it, but it happened. I have gotten over it though.

Overthinking everything is a huge disaster. It can get you into trouble very quickly. I was a good imposter for health issues. I’m not proud of the things I did, but at least now, I know the reasons why.

Why Am I So Anxious About Phone Calls?

Why am I so anxious about the phone? I absolutely hate talking on the phone. To this day, it still makes me nervous. You would think talking to someone in person is worse than talking on the phone. I rank them both up there. I became so sick of talking to spammers, I have all my calls go to voicemail if they’re not in my contact list. Rarely does my phone ring anymore. Peace and quiet.

Let’s talk about how to deal with phone anxiety. It’s something many people struggle with, especially these days with social media and being constantly connected to everyone through our phones.

A good way to tackle phone anxiety is to figure out what’s really causing it. Are you worried about saying the wrong thing? Afraid of being judged? Or maybe talking on the phone feels awkward in general. Once you pinpoint what’s triggering your fears, you can start working on them.

Another helpful tip is to practice deep breathing exercises before and during a phone call. This can help calm your nerves and reduce any physical symptoms of anxiety, such as a racing heart or trembling hands.

Why Am I So Anxious About the Future?

Uncertainty of the future is normal, except when it runs your life. Worrying constantly about what’s going to happen to you will ruin your life in the present. It’s important to have goals and plans for the future, but don’t let them consume you.

IInstead of stressing about everything that might go wrong, try focusing on what you can actually control. That could mean looking after your health, hanging out with people who matter, or setting some achievable goals.

It’s good to remember that challenges and setbacks are just a normal part of life. Nobody’s immune to them, and they can actually help us grow and learn some important lessons. When we see obstacles as chances to grow instead of massive failures, it’s easier to tackle them with a more positive outlook.

Why Am I So Anxious in Public?

Why am I so anxious about being in public places? I developed social anxiety after I started isolating. I’m still working on both. The isolating was from the general anxiety. I didn’t want anyone to see me with the symptoms I was having. Nor did I want to try to explain it to someone who asked.

I use exposure therapy for the social anxiety. It has helped me overcome a lot. Now, I can spend about fifteen minutes in the store being around other people. Before, I would have a panic attack, just even thinking about going to the store or a public place.

As for the isolating, I still spend a good portion of the day in my room, but I’m writing these posts. I believe to some extent, I still isolate, because I like the peace and quiet. One of these days, I will be free to spend as much time as I need in a store without panic attacks.

Perfectionism is Bad For Anxiety

When you have anxiety, you expect everything to be perfect. That way, you won’t worry about anything. I hate to burst the bubble with those who have anxiety, there’s no such thing as perfect. I finally learned my lesson on that one. Oh, how I tried to achieve that with the anxiety. I felt everything would be OK, if I was perfect, then nothing would go wrong.

I was so wrong. Every time I chased it, I was setting myself up for disappointment. It took me a long time, and a lot of anxiety, to finally learn my lesson. So how did I overcome it? I remember one night sitting at my computer during online classes, tears streaming down my face as I struggled to finish an assignment perfectly. That’s when it hit me—something had to change. I couldn’t keep living like this, always aiming for perfection, but never feeling good enough.

That’s when I came across the idea of being an imperfectionist, and it totally changed my perspective. Realizing it’s okay to mess up and not be perfect all the time was a game-changer. Embracing imperfection helped me let go of my anxiety and actually enjoy learning and growing.

Being an imperfectionist has taught me a lot about self-acceptance, resilience, and enjoying the process, instead of just obsessing over the end goal. It’s also helped me see failure differently—more as a chance to learn and grow than something to fear.

Expectations Can Lead to Anxiety

Why am I so anxious about my expectations? Living up to one’s obsessive expectations can spell disaster. Sometimes we set the bar so high, there’s no way of climbing over it. Why do we set it so high? Perfectionism is one of those. Through anxiety, you think that if you were perfect, everything will be good. Life doesn’t work like that. You’re going to have pitfalls, and that’s OK. It’s part of life.

Set goals that you can actually reach. Be honest with yourself about what you can do. If you aim too high, you might feel let down if you don’t get there. Just remember, progress is progress, no matter how small!

Once you know what you want to achieve, it’s time to get moving. Start by putting together a plan or roadmap that lays out how you’ll hit your goals. This could mean setting specific tasks or deadlines, reaching out for help or resources, and keeping track of your progress as you go.

Staying motivated and focused is key on this journey. A great way to do that is by breaking your big goal into smaller, more doable steps. It makes the whole thing feel less overwhelming and gives you a little win every time you check off one of those smaller tasks.

Trauma Can Develop Into Anxiety

Going through trauma can bring on anxiety. You might not know what to do next and feel overwhelmed or alone. It’s okay to not have everything figured out right away. Take your time to process, and don’t hesitate to reach out for help when you need it.

Going through a traumatic event can bring up all kinds of emotions—fear, anger, sadness, or even confusion. It’s totally normal to feel this way after something tough or upsetting happens. But for some people, these feelings can stick around and start to feel overwhelming, sometimes leading to anxiety.

Feeling anxious is a normal reaction to stress or danger, but it can become an issue when it starts affecting your daily life. If you’re constantly feeling worried or on edge after going through a tough experience, it could be a sign of PTSD or another type of anxiety disorder.

Sum It All Up

Why am I so anxious all the time? Anxiety can show up anytime. A little anxiety isn’t always bad—it can keep you sharp. But if it starts taking over your daily life, it’s a sign you might need some support. Anxiety can show up in different ways, like nonstop worrying, irrational fears, or physical symptoms like a racing heart or trouble catching your breath.

If you’re dealing with anxiety, you’re not alone. There are plenty of resources out there to help you manage it and feel better. A good place to start is to figure out what’s causing your anxiety and what triggers it.

Anxiety can come from all sorts of things—genetics, past experiences, or even what’s stressing you out right now. Figuring out what’s behind your anxiety is a big step toward tackling it. And don’t forget, self-care is super important when it comes to managing anxiety. This means looking after yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally.

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Have a Good One,

Cindee Murphy
“One voice used to feel anxious”

“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” – Anne Lamott

“Feelings of anxiety are reminders that you’re human, not that you’re broken.” – Unknown

“Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength—carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time.” – Corrie Ten Boom

“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.” – Kahlil Gibran