I know I have people pleasing anxiety because I try not to get on people’s bad sides. Therefore, I try to make sure they’re happy, at my own expense. Just as long as they are happy. Who cares about my feelings! I don’t! I have stated this in another post, I don’t like confrontation! It makes me very uncomfortable.
I will back down first in any fight. I could be one of those individual’s on “X” that is getting the shit kicked out of and not fighting back. I would act like nothing was wrong. No wonder I got bullied at school. I let it happen. Nowadays, I’m all talk and no show. I may spout off, but I have nothing to back it up with. One of the many reasons I just stay in my room, listening to head banging music (Octane all the way).
DSM Anxiety
The DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) is a manual published by the American Psychiatric Association that provides diagnostic criteria for mental health disorders. Anxiety disorders are a group of mental health disorders outlined in the DSM-5, which is the most recent version of the manual. I still remember my life before the anxiety started in. I was more outgoing, that’s for sure.
Consequently, I wasn’t afraid of everything and everyone. I could do simple things like going to the store. Nowadays, if I have to go to the bathroom, I become anxious. I just don’t want to talk to or see anybody. That’s kind of hard to do in this day and age because there are so many people, it’s hard not to bump into someone.
I’ll tell you why I get anxious going to the bathroom, because I have to leave that 4-squared room that is my safe haven. In reality, if I leave that room, I’m doomed (or so I think)! Anything could potentially hurt me.
Anxiety Symptoms NHS
Anxiety symptoms can vary from person to person and can include a range of physical and psychological symptoms. According to the National Health Service (NHS) in the UK, common symptoms of anxiety can include:
- Feeling restless, on edge, or keyed up
- Difficulty concentrating or mind going blank
- Fatigue or feeling tired easily
- Irritability
- Increased muscle tension or aches
- Difficulty falling or staying asleep, or restless, unsatisfying sleep
- Uncontrollable worry or intrusive, obsessive thoughts
- Panic attacks, which can cause symptoms such as rapid heart rate, sweating, shaking, and shortness of breath.
Anxiety symptoms can interfere with daily life and relationships, and can range in severity from mild to severe. When anxiety symptoms are persistent and interfere with daily life, it may be a sign of an anxiety disorder. I had severe anxiety the lasted a couple of days because I was changing my meds (bad mistake). The new med just made the anxiety worse.
Hence, my doctor put me back on the old medicine I was taking for anxiety. I didn’t realize how much it was helping until I didn’t have it anymore. I thought I was going to jump out of my skin. I just wanted to end it right then and there!!
Trembling Anxiety
Trembling comes along with the anxiety. I am constantly shaking, but that could also be part of having Parkinson’s Disease. I can’t be on the really good meds (Klonopin & Valium) because I have an addictive personality. Meaning, my body gets used to it quickly, then I need more and more. I was on Valium and found that out. Although, I was a really mellow person back then.
The trembling is just a matter of finding a good med that will help with the shaking. One of the problems I have with falling asleep at night, is trying to lower or stop the trembling so I can get comfortable enough to fall asleep. The trembling kind of hinders that, so I don’t fall asleep till much later.
Anxiety And Loss Of Appetite
I think anxiety and loss of appetite go hand in hand. Surely, it’s the only positive thing about having anxiety, if you’re overweight and trying to lose weight (like me). I gained all the weight because I was on Lithium for the Bipolar. When I got off of it in March of this year, I pretty much wasn’t hungry all the time. Sometimes I skip meals because I’m just not hungry. When I was on the Lithium, I used to eat junk food (mainly ice cream) like it was going out of style. Oh God, did I eat horribly! When I was still married, my ex-husband and I would cook fries in the fryer and have just that for dinner.
Kalms For Anxiety
Kalms is a brand of herbal supplements that are marketed for their calming effects and are commonly used to alleviate symptoms of mild anxiety, stress, and sleep disturbances.
The Kalms range includes several different products made from natural ingredients such as valerian root extract, passionflower extract, and hop strobile extract, among other ingredients. It is important to note that while Kalms is a natural supplement and generally considered safe to use, it is still important to speak with a healthcare professional before taking any new supplement, particularly if you are taking medication or have any underlying health conditions.
The ingredients in Kalms can interact with certain medications and may not be appropriate for everyone. It’s also important to keep in mind that herbal supplements are not a substitute for professional medical treatment for anxiety or other mental health conditions.
Guided Meditation For Sleep And Anxiety
During guided imagery, a person is guided to imagine a relaxing scene or experience, which can help to reduce feelings of anxiety and promote relaxation. I used to have a bunch of CD’s that had guided imagery. I used to listen to them when I went to bed. In fact, it would always put me to sleep.
In terms of sleep, guided imagery can be used as part of a relaxation routine before bed to help calm the mind and promote sleepiness. By using visualizations to create a peaceful mental picture, individuals can reduce feelings of stress and promote a sense of calm, which can help prepare them for a restful night’s sleep.
Calm Anxiety Attack
When I have a panic attack, these are some of the strategies that may help to calm an anxiety attack:
Focus on your breathing: During an anxiety attack, your breathing may become rapid and shallow, which can worsen symptoms. Try to slow down your breathing by taking deep, slow breaths. You can try inhaling for four counts, holding your breath for seven counts, and exhaling for eight counts, then repeat.
Engage your senses: Paying attention to what’s around you can help to ground you in the present moment and distract from anxious thoughts. Try focusing on the sensations around you, such as the feeling of your feet on the ground or a particular smell in the air.
Use positive self-talk: Use compassionate and supportive statements to remind yourself that the anxiety will pass, and you are safe. Examples include “I can handle this,” and “This will pass.”
Practice progressive muscle relaxation: This technique involves tensing and then relaxing different muscle groups in your body, starting with your toes and working your way up. This can help you release muscle tension and promote relaxation.
Seek support: Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional for support. Talking to someone you trust can help you feel less alone and more grounded.
Ease Anxiety
How do you ease anxiety? Good question! I just do things that I enjoy doing and that is relaxing. I still like to make the friendship bracelets. I find it very relaxing and I can wear it afterwards. What else do I like to do…I used to love to read (Stephen King, was my favorite), but I find it hard to concentrate for that long of a time. Doing this blog keeps me pretty busy. I try to post at least four per week. I was trying to do one everyday, but I couldn’t keep up.
Conclusion
Ever since I was diagnosed with anxiety, it seems that’s all my life is about…the anxiety. It’s there at every aspect of my life. I feel like it is going to be there for the remainder of my life. I don’t want my every move to be like “well, what is the anxiety going to do?” I remember the times before the anxiety and I want that back. But I don’t know how to get that back. I haven’t figured it out yet. I hope it comes soon, this is a down right, dreary existence. I hope God is listening, “I just want my life back!” Yes, I said that out loud. I have to work on my people pleasing anxiety and not accept something outright. Therefore, it’s ok to disagree with someone and stand up for my views or ideas. I’m just as important as the next person. Easier said than done…right? I’ve been a people pleaser most of my life. It’s going to take a lot of effort to overcome that.
Articles
-How To Stop People-Pleasing
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412
-People Pleasing: A Direct Link To The Highest Level Of Social Anxiety And How To Break The Cycle
-How To Know If You’re A People-Pleaser And The Psychology Behind It
Have a Good One,
Cindee, One Voice – Unstoppable
“You’re not alone!”
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