Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. I’m so lonely. I could be standing in a crowd of people and still I could feel lonely. Hence, I live with three other people and they don’t really talk to me.
I can’t express how I feel. At any rate, nobody wants to deal with a mental person I guess. Sorry, I’m just thinking out loud.
I used to talk to my therapist and psychiatrist, but they’re no longer in the picture. Therefore, I just sit up in my room and type away.
The only time when I get to talk to someone is when I see my primary care doctor.
I’m going to be living by myself pretty soon and I’m kind of scared. But, I’m going to adopt a cat, so at least I’ll have some companionship.
I’ve been sad AND lonely lately. At the present time, I don’t have any friends that I go out and do stuff with.
I used to go out for lunches with my dad and brother, but they haven’t invited me in awhile. That’s probably my fault or the anxieties fault.
Who wants to talk to a blundering idiot that is scared of everything! I may put myself down at times, but it’s just a thought. Sometimes they have no value in my life.
Emotional Loneliness
Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. Subsequently, emotional loneliness is the hardest feeling to deal with. I get depressed just thinking about it. Besides, I thought I would be ok just sitting in my room all day typing away and doing other stuff. I think I was wrong.
For the most part, I haven’t been experiencing that much anxiety. At length, that was the reason for staying in the room. I isolated myself to the point where I’m lonely. Therefore, I believe I sacrificed my social interconnections. And that’s not a good thing.
Being that, I hardly go out side anymore unless I have an appointment. By and learge, can you imagine what it’s going to be like when I move and start living by myself. I wanted this for so long and now I’m afraid.
Loneliness Anxiety
Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. Furthermore, I have anxiety with loneliness when no one will talk to me. I worry that I must have done something wrong. Always blaming myself. Even more, I don’t like it if someone is mad at me. I think I must have deserved it.
Wouldn’t you say I have low self-esteem. At times, I don’t think much of myself. Given that, it’s probably from all the bullying as I was growing up. Not really growing up but withdrawing in.
In addition, I never learned to express myself for fear that I won’t be liked. Or even be wrong. So my loneliness and anxiety developed over those growing years until it manifested into completely taking over my life.
Hence, why I’m in therapy and taking meds. It wasn’t my choice though. My mom was the one who sought out a psychiatrist and the rest is history.
I don’t understand how the health organizations can say “here, take this, it will make you feel better,” when, to me, it’s just the opposite. “Money is the rute of all evil.” And sometimes the side effects are worse than the illness.
My nephew had ADHD or ADD (I think , it was never discussed and I never asked). Hence, I just thought that because of his actions when he was growing up.
In any case, I don’t think my brother and sister-in-law ever put him on medicine (good for them).
They handled everytime problem behavior that arose. They didn’t drug him out like I was and still am to some effect.
Besides, I was on Effexor (which is the worst med in the world because of side effects). I was so out of it, I’m surprised I could still walk, but barely talking. I couldn’t form complete sentences.
Therefore, the moral of the story is do your research on any med BEFORE you take it. You never know about it’s side effects.
Loneliness and Depression
Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. Loneliness and depression go hand-in-hand. In a word, loneliness will bring you down to a level of depression that you don’t want to go. I’m pretty much stable with my depression (some days are still bad, but it’s normal depression).
The loneliness is what’s getting to me. In brief, I live with three other people and nobody hardly speaks to one another. Or maybe they just don’t speak to me, I don’t know.
In any event, maybe it’s the fact that I have mental illnesses and they think I’m better off left alone, which could be farther then the truth.
If you’re reading this, PLEASE TALK TO ME! I’ve given up on starting conversations because it’s awkward for me.
Also, it’s almost like I’m not supposed to talk about mental illness. It’s a taboo. Yes, I was in a very dark place a few years ago, but I’ve grown from it.
I’m in a much better place now, hence, moving out on my own (even though it’s a little scary).
I Have No Friends and No One to Talk To
Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. Right now, I have only one friend, my exhusband. Otherwise I have no one to talk to. But, I talk to him because he’s going through the same illnesses.
In short, the few friends I had in school (if you want to call them that), parted ways after graduation.
I don’t even want to get into my so-called ‘best friend.’ In sum, she was just a user and would have rather have been in the ‘in crowd’ than be friends with me. Somethings you just can’t forgive.
So, I kind of put myself in this situation-the loneliness. I hardly ever leave my room except to use the bathroom or get something to eat/drink. Occassionally, I have an appointment to go to.
Other than that, I’m absolutely lonely. And it will probably get worse when I move to my new home. Although, I’ll make sure I have companionship with a new little kitty that’s going to be in my life. We can be lonely together.
Feeling of Loneliness
Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. The feeling of loneliness is an empty feeling. Thus, you feel like you’re not loved and that nobody likes you, otherwise they would talk to you.
You know, I have the hardest time trying to get what friends I have to call me.
I’m always doing the calling. Except a few days ago, my exhusband called me, which surprised me. I said thank you. It made me feel good.
Simultaneously, it makes me feel like I’m needed and I am making a difference in someone’s life because they made the jesture.
Feeling loneliness is not a hole you want to go down. Because it will suck the life right out of you. You loose yourself. And it’s hard to climb back up.
To tell you the truth, I don’t really know when my days weren’t ALL depressing and lonely. I think it happened over a certain amount of time. It’s not like you snap your fingers and you wake up. Although, everyone would enjoy that.
I don’t think the loneliness ever really went away. In particular, it was diminished at times, but it also made itself known at other times.
It’s more so now again because I isolated myself from people. When my anxiety is sky high, it’s really hard to talk to people. Plus, you never know when you’re going to have a panic attack.
Coping With Loneliness
Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. However, I believe there is coping with loneliness. It’s such a prominent feeling that doesn’t take lightly to trying to ignore it, but it will listen.
When you give it commands on how you want your life to run. Like I said, “it will listen.”
Overcoming loneliness is also very doable. But, you just have to practice very hard the uncortable things you don’t like to do.
Do it over and over. You’ll become conditioned to the new you.
Being Alone
Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. Being alone…I’m afraid of it. In like fashion, I absolutely don’t know how I’m going to feel when I’m alone for when I move and live by myself.
In contrast, I mean things happen that wouldn’t freak out an average person, but being alone is one to ‘loose it’ to for me.
There are times when I’m ok with it, but when there is anxiety in the equation, no.
I have to learned how to somewhat defeat the anxiety of being alone because I can’t have someone around me 24/7 like a child.
Hence, my new kitty (or 2) comes into the picture. Even though they can’t talk, their great comforters. They can sense when somethings wrong. I need that.
Feeling Lost and Alone
Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. In reality, feeling lost and alone is part of my life right now. I have to navigate through all these emotions when I move. It’s kind of scary.
I’m lost because I don’t exactly know what the future holds for me. I mean, actually nobody knows, but when you’re environment that you feel comfortable (used to) in is about to change, that’s scary.
The alone part you know. As long as my family doesn’t forget about me, I think I’ll be ok. It’s not like I’m moving miles and miles away.
Therefore, Being alone in my own house is something that I’m just going to have to get used to.
Conclusion
Alleviating loneliness, strategies for coping and overcoming it. I’m going to have to get used to dealing with loneliness on a day to day level. There’s no getting around it.
But I believe I’ll come out strong on the other end. I feel like I’m ready for the challenges.
The reason I feel so alone now is because there’s no communication in my family (with me anyway). In truth, I believe that will change when I move. Maybe we can become a family again.
In the beginning, after I move, I’ll probably be feeling alone. But once I get used to it, I believe I’ll thrive. Here’s looking towards the future. Until next time…
Articles About Loneliness
-Loneliness
-4 Steps To Walk Away From Loneliness
https://www.mcleanhospital.org/essential/loneliness
-Could Loneliness Be the Cause of Your Anxiety?
Have a Good One,
Cindee Murphy, One Voice In The Vastness Of Emotions
“The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.”― F. Scott Fitzgerald
“Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness.”― Maya Angelou
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